incredible women
Recently many articles were written on young Rubiya from Kerala, a muslim girl who is a bharatnatyam dancer and has danced since age 3.. often to sustain her family. When shunned by the local mosque committee this 17 year old retorts with rare wisdom:“God is one. When...
Is he still smiling…
Went to what at best could be called a funding fantasy.The cause AIDS children in the north eastern states of India; the venue: an up market club; the sponsors: jewellery tycoons; the guest list: Delhi's very own page almost 3; the chief guest: a minister.. food and...
funding fantasy
These words dropped in the mailbox this morning: "I am just about to lose my patience here with ..... I don't understand what their problem is - seems like they just want to dissect each issue to pieces forsaking the larger picture at hand."They were written by a...
genderBias
Last week, it took me a lot of patience to convince a shopkeeper to give Utpal the kitchen set he wanted.. the shopkeeper tried as best he could to sell mr P a gun, or a car or anything that was for boys! but mr P knew his mind and he wanted the kitchen set to be able...
spair grace soup and lemongrace tea
teach my child english.. was the first things many parents asked me six years back when i first landed on planet why.. now many may think why every parent feels that english is necessary for their children.. come on what use would a vegetable vendor or a mechanic do...
happy birthday mr p
It is mr popples 4th birthday.. what a lovely boy he has become.. abrave heart in more ways than one.. i still remember the first time I met him, when even the men in white had given up on him.. but when I looked into his eyes filled with pain, I saw life.. and...
she deserves her dreams…
My heart went out to Nandini has she heaved herself down the lane, her precious books in her hand, I asked her to come and sit with me and then enquired upon what the doctor has said. This matter of fact young lady told me that she could not be operated upon till she...
too late for nandini but not for sandhya
Sandhya landed up at hearfix hotel today.. a little 6 year old she needs heart surgery and her parents took all the initiatives and got her checked... something we are pleasantly surprised about as often parents give up, particularly when the child is a girl..They...
will M’s tomorrows be safe.. (cont)
(in the previous post we tried to imagine what a child's tomorrows may look like, if the persent situation continued; let us now imagine how things can change..)M's or s's tomorrow can be safe.. but if many ifs happen! So let us take it from the top again..Their...
will M’s tomorrows be safe..
M is busy learning.. he is lost in his own world, and as serious about his work as any other child.. wonder what is going on in his little head..If we look around us, it is difficult to predict what might happen to M, who belongs to a poor migrant labour family.. but...
moving on….
Welcome to why house - for want a better name - this where we will soon be moving, or at least part of us.. this is also a transition time for pwhy.We at pwhy have always held that children from all walks of life should attend regular school. schools run by the state...
jump for
Jump for my love.. said the pointer sisters in their famous song!Wonder what A is jumping for...A is an autistic child and lives locked in his world that no one understands.. not even his own family.. his mother loves him but does not know how to, his father does not...
hands up…
I have always been fascinated by the theory of synchronicity. One of the definitions I like is the following: " Synchronicities are people that come your life to help you evolve or to place emphasis on something going on in your life. "I sat this afternoon taking a...
smiling on…
It has been some time since I wrote about nanhe.. so here is some news.. he has been back at pwhy and thrilled to be with his friends.. and rearing to make up for lost time..Since his return he has had several outings and no sir not only to the hospital: Nanhe visited...
special gift to honour a son..
It is always very difficult to find the right birthday gift for your adult child.. you are either likely to go wrong or land up giving something they already have..And yet each parent wants to make the right choice.. Steve and Sandy oudid everyone and found something...
dreams on hold
We just heard that it is too late for nandini... she cannot have corrective surgery.. one feels terible as this child deserved to have her dreams come true.. and maybe we can help her.. so her dreams are now ours to fulfill10-3-06 nandini was born with a hole in her...
the other side of midnight
Wedding time seems to have gripped our city and we have had an array of them: from the creme de la creme to the simple folk.. wedding bells were ringingIf people did not stop talking about a recent page 3 wedding that panned three cities and many nights, we had our...
clairobscur
I love the interplay of lights in this picture.. it reminds me of India and its surprising ways.. whne you think that all around you is dark, a glimmer of light appears from nowhere and brings back the hope you had almost given up on..last week delhi was stunned by...
B from the city and N from the village
babli and nandini.. both innmates of our heartFix hotel.. and believe it or not, they are both 9.. one grew up in the slums of delhi, the other in a village in bihar..they were both born with the same congenital heart defect.. babli as you know had heart surgery and...
practice what you preach…
I often find myself saying that one of our main flaws is to magnify the bad and overlook the good things. This is true in our everyday life. Thus we remember the day someone forgot to salt the food but forget all the other days when the food was right; we blame the...
delphicMessage
In a time when the city is ablaze with demolition and talk about illegal buildings and slum clusters, when courts have ordered no further 'regularisation,a board was erected in front of a slum community centre next to pwhy and inaugurated by all the local politicos.....
babaa..day, badnasday or vday pwhy style
Funny how the 'poor' emulate the 'rich' in everything.. so this morning S our creche worker who is a little simple minded carried a bunch of cellophane wrapped roses.. she entered the office and and mumbled 'happy bababaa day" and handed her roses to all present.....
loos and woes — some answers
In my previous post I wrote about meals in loos.. there were some comments on this post and one that disturbed me. It said:...to me its quite OK ,i am sure there are many more schools in India which dont get anything to eat, let alone the ones stored in toilets...Yes...
meals in loos – delhi school woes
Many may have seen the evening news programme that showed a municipal school in Delhi where midday meals were stored in toilets and even classes were held in bathrooms.. a shocking revelation for sure.. but as I looked at the pictures of this resettlement colony...
heartfix hotel…
We could not save Chetna.. but someone up there seems to think that our heartFix venture is worthwhile.. and out of the blue landed Nandini from a remote village in Bihar. She is 9 and needs heart surgery to repair a hole in her heart..In spite of her exhausting...
healing edicts
Yesterday, the Delhi High Court pronounced a jugement directing 70 up-market state-of-the-art private hospitals to provide free treatment to the poor by reserving 25% of their resources to people below the poverty line.. the court also directed these hospitals to...
rubble rumbles
Last week bulldozers raised MG 1 or the mecca of the fashion industry in India's capital city and our page 3 went up in arms.. TV programmes, newspaper articles, impassioned debates abounded.. even divine intervention was sought as pujas and yagnas were held...Let me...
when nanhe’s eyes are smiling…
It's back.. the smile that kept us going through many ordeals...it's back after five weeks in hospital wards, and operation theatres and more such places, and even if nanhe is a little tired and a little thinner, the smile is beaming and larger than ever..You guessed...
hours after.. i sit and wonder
Hours after I sit and wonder at how exposed and vulnerable you feel when faced with the death of a child... a life taken away before it even begins..You try to find answers that would help comprehend.. you need those answers to carry on, even if you have to invent...
marks.. slaps.. and a dickensian school
You would all agree that terminal examinations are meant to assess performance and help improve the same. You will also agree that an exam has no relevance if marks are not given to the student... well not so in our city....In December all municipal schools held...
Go in peace Chetna
Chetna November 2005 - 1 february 2006 Chetna left this world a few hours ago.. leaving us stunned.. everything had been set for her heart surgeryI was instantly drawn to this little pixie girl when I first met her a few days back in ward no 18 of Safdarjung hospital....
chottey lal.. the larger than life toy man
When you think nothing can touch or move you, that your heart is safe and well guarded, beware: someone may have other plans for you. It happened to me this morning. This is how:What made me decide to go fetch K and mr P, I do not know.. what made me say 'yes' to...
heartfix hotel
When Sitaram walked into our little office almost three years go, he had hobbled for six years on his good leg from the proverbial pillar to post seeking the funds required for his son Raju's operation. His determination and courage compelled us to act... Arun had to...
another smile in custody…
There is another smile that lit planet why for the past 6 months, a smile that conveyed warmth, compassion and befitted the spirit of pwhy!Sophie came to us last summer and immediately became one of us.. so much so that we almost took her for granted.. not only did...
the spunk of a smile
For 28 days nanhe has kept his smile going.. through pain, humiliating investigations and now invasive surgery which has wreaked his exhausted body.. with tubes and drains hanging and the discomfort of bedsores, nanhe still smiles on..True his smile is a little slower...
parttime couples
Was flipping through a upmarket magazine and came across an article entitled: weekend couples, highlighting what was defined as 'a new dynamisn in the intsitution of marriage with couples living in different cities'...Once again we were faced with the now jaded...
branded… in free India
Yesterday on the eve of R day, segregation in schools on the basis of performance was banned in Maharashtra.. strange that in a country where all children are deemed equal, such a practice existed for over half a century..A child was branded A or B or C... at an early...
happy R day…
All year long we celebrate innumerable festivals.. many are religious... some social... we wish each other diwali and xmas, eid and pongal amd freindship day and mother's day... often not quite knowing what each of them signifies..Today is R Day.. often viewed as a...



































